What are you so scared of?

I recently had to endure listening to a friend complaining about the single life and how she really wanted to be in a relationship *sigh* so I'm dedicating this post to her.

I wonder why people think relationships are glamorous, it takes real hard work and commitment you know, and tolerance, patience, communication, endurance, compromise, the list could go on and on. Don't let Tumblr deceive you. Sure there would be roses and forehead kisses and PDAs but that's just one part of the package.

I could introduce you to married people who say their single days were the best days of their lives. When you're in a relationship there's no I or Me, it's two of you now, or three if you count that one persistent girl trying to screw things up. But your single days? that's all you baby. Your shot to be greedy, to do things for yourself, to be irresponsible, to discover who you really are; that kinda makes being in a relationship better. Discover the world, travel around, find out your talents, what you're not so good at, work on those bad habits. And since most of us are in Uni right now, face your damn books! Learn to be on your own, be independent. Stop jumping from one relationship to another, why are you so scared of being on your own for a little while? Take yourself on dates; contrary to popular belief IT IS NOT SAD! just like it takes a man really confident of his sexuality to wear pink, it takes just as much confidence to have lunch or see a movie on your own. The best relationship one could ever have is with oneself. And when you've loved yourself the best way that you can, you discover your worth and settle for nothing less.

I promise you when you're done living the single life, being in a relationship gets better. Then we would have less "in a relationship, but acting single" people around the world. I'm gonna leave you with two quotes

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose." 
- Jo Courdert

and  from my very favourite

Don't forget to fall in love with yourself first 
- Carrie Bradshaw



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