Wednesday, 31 July 2013

Trust Issues

Like so many relationship issues that we face, I enjoy watching Whitney and Alex try to resolve most of them. In season one I couldn't help laughing at Whitney's devastation that Alex wouldn't tell her the unlock code to his phone. Well I never gave it any thought, why should I? Beau's phone was never locked.
But if you have a boyfriend with a pass code in his phone does it raise alarms in your head or do you trust your man enough to let it go? Why did he put a code in the first place? Does he not trust you? Or.....  Men please feel free to comment on this as well

Don't Let The Blues Get You

Well since I'm blogging, might as well write something useful. This is a compilation of things to help you feel better or make you happy if you happen to be down and stuck in bed. I hate staying in bed when I'm sick, I find that my mind tricks my body into thinking it's a lot sicker than it actually is. Once when I was sick (btw I hate going to the hospital so I treat myself), I decided to google my symptoms, worst thing I ever did. I was soo convinced I had cancer. I cried and made amends with God. True story. Turns out it was ... (never mind that's private medical history). Piece of advice don't ever google your symptoms, EVER!

So if you're having a bad case of the sniffles like me or whatever and just happen to be on bed rest, here's a list of things to watch to cheer you up

1. F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Works like a charm

2.  Ferris Beuller's Day Off. Wouldn't it be great to do all the things he did?

3. Whitney. I find all the characters hilarious and the humour inappropriate. What's not to love?

4. Despicable Me. Of course this had to make the cut. What's not to cheer you up in this movie?

5. How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days. All the things you SHOULDN'T do to your man. LOL. I should probably get Beau a 'love fern' *evil smile*

6. The Mask. Somebody Stop Me! Love Jim Carrey

7. Some Like it Hot. A black and white movie never hurt, especially if it has Marilyn Monroe in it, that way your boyfriend won't object to your choice

8. The Cosby Show. We all know the 80s and 90s had the best tv sitcoms

9. Think Like A Man. Rom-com? Hell Yeah. Kevin Hart. Double Yeah

10. The Hangover. This is just so I don't get accused for listing only female appropriate movies. That and it's actually a hilarious movie. If my dad could approve of this then well....

Okay that's what I could come up with in this condition. Maybe someday I'll make a blues playlist; not sad songs, songs that actually make you sing along in your groggy, croaky voice. And now I'm going to watch number 2 just so I can see the 'Twist and Shout' Scene, by far my favourite in the movie. Plus it's my darling's birthday, Niya, so a special shout out to her. 


The Blues

I've got the sniffles, it really sucks. Classic British summer, it's gloomy, wet and depressing once again. After taunting us with the sun for a couple of days it decided to go back to its bleak self. And I spent the whole day in bed nursing my flu.

What exactly did I do? Well I went through my old magazines, it's amazing how much of them I have in my room. And then I watched Bachelorette, no offence to anyone who watched that movie and liked it but I thought it was SHIT! And I have this habit where I always finish whatever I start; a boring book or movie, things like that so I watched it to the end. I just have to say that if I had bridesmaid like that I would kill them. Now I have to consider who I pick as my bridesmaids *sigh*

Then I watched F.R.I.E.N.D.S all day. They say laughter is the best medicine right? Had a good laugh but I still feel like poo. I'm seriously craving a steaming cup of hot chocolate and marshmallows, I'm all out since I didn't expect it would feel like winter in July UGH! I need a vacation to a really warm country with real summer weather.

It was my mum's birthday yesterday, hugs and kisses to her. I miss her, I miss home and family. Oh Dirty Laundry video is finally out, why is Kelly soo beautiful? I want all the lipsticks from this video. When I feel better I'm going on a lipstick hunt. Oh well just felt like blogging even though I have nothing really important to say. I'm going to go make me a cup of chamomile and honey tea since I don't have hot chocolate :(

Stay warm

Tuesday, 30 July 2013

A Little Too Obsessed

I've found that maybe, just a little I am obsessed with leopard prints. Ok fine I am obsessed. So bad that people who hardly know me can tell. Example, when attending London School of Journalism, by the second day, the entire class could tell I was obsessed with leopard prints. The weird thing is I never wore any leopard print item to class. Okay maybe the scarf on my bag was leopard print but that was it I swear, no top, no pants or shoes. But apparently when we got visual with magazines or created sceneries, I either cut out pictures with leopards or orange background and my classmates always put me in a scenery where I was stroking cubs or being surrounded by leopards. Should that ever happen, I hope they surround me in love and not hunger. So I've decided to share this obsession with you. I have other tiny little obsessions here and there like the colour red, the minions, disney etc. Every week I would post an obsession, no offence if leopard prints seem more redundant, can't help it. And I would title it 'A Little Too Obsessed', followed by that week's obsession

A Little Too Obsessed: Leopard Prints
A Little Too Obsessed: Spotted
A Little Too Obsessed: Love etc.

You get my point don't you? So here's to having fun with this series and reeling you into my world.


Drop Your Damn Phone

I’ve found that these days I spend more time staring at my iPhone, doing something on it, rather than actually experiencing life. When I wake up, I pick up my iPhone to check for messages, praying that someone sent me one, because who doesn’t like waking up to messages? Then I surf through the thousands of emails that I got from websites I don’t remember subscribing to. After that it’s social networking time, I go through Instagram to see pictures from my fabulous fashionable friends or family members on summer vacations I should be taking. After that it’s twitter time, what’s everyone tweeting about? Who’s trending? I’m not much into Facebook so that’s not part of my routine. When I’m completely done with that, I’m off to Candy Crush trying to beat someone’s high score or advance to the next level. And all that before I even leave my bed, sad right? During the day I find myself glancing at my phone replying instant messages or waiting for someone to upload a picture on Instagram I can like or replying important emails. It’s a fight my boyfriend and I constantly get into, as he hates that I’m always on my phone. One day while trying to check what the weather was, he snapped at me “why don’t you go outside and feel it?” he retorted irritated and I knew right there and then that I had replaced life with a virtual existence. I began trying to notice most youths around me and realised, thankfully, I wasn’t the only one suffering from this disease, ‘technonemia’ (I just coined that now, yaaaay me). How often do we miss the important things in life because we’re too busy gluing our eyes to our smartphones and gadgets? How often do we miss out on a baby’s first walk, a rainbow in the cloud, a significant others achievements because we are too busy rotating our lives around our apple products? How anti social has our phones made us, when even at social gatherings with friends and family we find ourselves tapping away at our touchscreen? Would it kill us to drop our phones, not check our emails, or ignore that other person’s candy crush high score to just live in the moment and enjoy this short phase called life? I’ve decided to have a technology detox, which can come in different forms

  • ·      Don’t reply every email the moment you get it, set apart a time and reply all emails at once.
  • ·      Take out an hour everyday with no technology around you, no phones or tablets or laptops. Just you and the world, a walk might be nice or thinking on purpose session
  • ·      When in social gatherings, put your phone on silent or Do Not Disturb. IPhone lets calls from favourites ring even on silent so if you’re bothered about missing a jealous boyfriend or girlfriend or parent’s call, list them under your favourites.
  • ·      Take out weekends or a whole day to not use your phone. But inform important loved ones less they worry that you’re missing or worse.
  • ·      Instead of constantly tapping at your phone replying instant messages, why not write a hand written letter or note? Take it back a notch to the good ol’ days

Like I said it’s a detox that could come in many forms and it would change your world and your life forever. Good luck x

Before You

Before you there was me, there was hurt and there was pain.
There were tears and it was lonely.
There were insecurities and harsh words said over time that stuck.
There were painful memories from a broken heart
There were nights spent crying

And then there was the moving on phase
The 'I'm better off alone phase'
It was just me
The world revolved around me
And I liked it
No stress no hassle

But it got lonely
There were nights I yearned for company
Nights I wanted to be touched
To be kissed and to be held
Days when I wanted to be loved
And to love back

Then you came along
Ooh you turned my world around
It was hard getting used to not having my world revolve around me
But it was a sacrifice worth taking
There were days I wanted to run
To run for fear of what this could be

But how could I miss out?
Miss out on a love so great
A love which mended my heart and filled the empty spaces
A love that comforted me when I cried
And made me laugh
The kind of love that made me feel safe

See before you, there was me, just me
And it was lonely
And now it's full of happiness and love and laughter
My great love
My love story
I love you today and forever

Monday, 29 July 2013

Do Good Anyways

I never thought I'd ever post a video on instagram but I've posted 3 so far. It was like the first video opened a flood gate for me. The first video I posted was a short clip from a Maya Angelou interview where her grandmum always said this

"You know what's right, just do right"

and her mum told her the same thing the same day she was leaving her house to become an independent woman, she reminded her

"When you step over my door sill, you've been raised. You know the difference between right and wrong, do right"

It's a simple principle we should all live by, the constant desire to always do the right thing even though the wrong thing may entice us. A principle that applies to the big and little things, don't drop that litter on the floor, look for a trash. As well as giving a homeless person a meal for the night cause you're in a better place. If we all did this, religious or not, everyone of us, the world would be a better better place for anyone to live in.

There's a quote by Mother Theresa I would love to leave you with

"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, they may accuse you of having selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You ... see, in the end, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway."

Let's try this thing called: Random Act of Kindness. Do something kind to someone everyday, it could be something as little as smiling at a stranger on the bus or donating to a charity. But try it, it would make you feel good and make the world a better place. 

Saturday, 27 July 2013

For Your Heart

You know those days when you feel like you've been hurt by the one you love? Those days when you just can't stop bawling your eyes out, while curled up in bed or on the couch, listening to sad depressing songs or songs that explain how you feel. Won't it be better if you just had a playlist that flowed freely without LMFAO's party rock anthem trying to creep in and ruin your sad mood. I know this kinda promotes depression but sometime's a girl's just gotta cry. SO I made this playlist which might come in handy for some of you
  1. Resentment- Beyonce
  2. It Kills Me- Melanie Fiona
  3. Breath of Life- Florence and the Machine
  4. Give Me Love- Ed Sheeran
  5. Moving Mountains- Usher
  6. All That I Wanted- Shelly Fraley
  7. You Lost Me- Christina Aguilera
  8. The Scientist- Glee Cast (Yes I actually prefer their version)
  9. After The Hurricane- Jazzmine Sullivan
  10. Sorry- Ciara
  11. Apologize- One Republic
  12. Rolling in the deep- Adele
  13. Foolish Games- Jewel
  14. Bleeding Love- Leona Lewis
  15. Last Kiss- Taylor Swift
Well that should get you started.....

True Love Mystery

I'm such an avid reader of YouTube comments, I could probably spend a whole day reading YouTube comments and laughing my head off. Tonight I was watching trailers looking for a movie to cheer me up and I saw this comment under the trailer for 500 days of Summer. It was someone sharing his perspectives of true love, which you should check out here (top comment), but what struck me was this line
"...stop looking for true love, you won't find it, build one"

Is it true?? Have we got it all wrong, jumping from one relationship to the other trying to find true love, when all along we could have built one with someone. While it sounds intriguing, a number of questions can't help but pop in my head. But what if he's not the one? What if that's not my true love? Do I randomly pick out a man from the bus and BUILD true love with him? Okay that was obviously a stupid question.

He probably means this, when you find someone who accepts your flaws and loves you, though you fight constantly or he irritates you sometimes, you just don't throw it away, you can make a decision to stay with them through the worst days and make it through hard times and eventually you'll realise you built something; true love.

That's what he was trying to say right? That or I'm completely clueless. SMH. So do you find love or do you build one, what do you think?

Thursday, 25 July 2013

100 things: Part Nine

Like all good things, this series must come to an end as well. I must say it was fun to do. Thanks again to Sofia's Journal for the brilliant idea. Hope you liked it and followed the series and now for the final set *sob*

#91 Organising things

#92 People with GOOD manners

#93 Grand Pianos (sadly I don't play)

#94 Cute Scarves (The colourful, the better)

#95 Boots with Fur

#96 Movies about dancing

#97 African Fashion

#98 Sitcoms of the 90s

#99 Caprisonne!!!

#100 Floating Lanterns

Sigh, all done. 100 things I love, all up there for you to see, can't believe it has come to an end so soon, felt like we were just getting to know each other (LOL ok that sounds creepy). So tell me, what makes you happy?

Wednesday, 24 July 2013

100 Things: Part Eight

Awwww this is the second to the last set of the 100 things I love. Wonder what series I'd do next, any ideas? I'm open to ideas

#81 Books

#82 Receiving a compliment

#83 Freshly made bed

#84 A beautiful view

#85 Scented Candles

#86 My Bible 

#87 Chivalry 

#88 Men in Suits

#89 Cute Iphone cases

#90 Black men with coloured eyes

Tuesday, 23 July 2013

100 Things: Part Seven

How's everyone enjoying the lovely British summer? Good I hope. It's time for the 7th round of 100 things I like, can't believe I haven't run out of things yet LOL

#71 Fresh Laundry

#72 Bicycle rides on a warm day

#73 Colourful Fruit Salad

#74 The smell of fresh hot baked goods

#75 Bouncy Curls

#76 West End Musical (Fave: Wicked The Musical)

#77 Spa Treatments

#78 Classic Old/Black and White Movies

#79 Pebbles on the beach (Finding and Collecting them)

#80 Jazz

This is almost coming to an end, I feel an emotional breakdown coming soon :(

Monday, 22 July 2013

It Takes Two You Know?

Am I the only one fed up with the double standards that society has when it comes to relationships. If a girl gets pregnant, she gets judge but the guy walks away scot free (most times). It took two to get pregnant you know? Well that's not what I'm fed up with, even though that gets on my nerves as well. From a significant age, girls are trained to become future wives.
Sweep that floor well, is that what you would do in your husband's house? 
My friend come into the kitchen, is it take away your husband would be eating?
Cover yourself or you won't find a husband.

AHHHHH! Enough already. While we spend the better half of our life "preparing" for our husbands and doing only wife appropriate things, what are our so-called "husbands" doing?

While society cracks down on grooming girls into becoming potential wives, the boys slip unnoticed playing football till it gets dark or playing video games till someone dislocates a thumb. Why is no one encouraging the boys to become potential husbands? Why aren't phrases like
"open the door for every girl or woman, someday you would do it for your wife", 
"get a job, the sooner you learn to be independent, the better your chances are of being a husband" and the rest being thrown at the boys too. Once upon a time, a 19 year old man was already married and taking full responsibility of being not just a husband but a man as well, today he's just too busy occupying himself with 'swag' and senseless rap music to even consider growing up. And then when the time comes and we women don't bring back home husbands, society would begin to whisper behind our backs and while we pass. Look at her, 28 and not married. Meanwhile I am a full 18 yards of wife material, the whole package; good looks, can cook, can maintain a home, even got a job. Where is my male counterpart? He's azontoing in the club or rolling weed while playing fifa. Society has taught him that 'boys will always be boys' so he doesn't feel the need to learn to commit. And you blame me? Think again. It takes two to tango, if you're going to breathe down my neck on becoming a 'wife material', please look to your side and talk to your boys too.

P.s MY opinion, which I am freely entitled to :)


For some reason this song came on while I was having a supposedly important conversation with someone. These lines most especially got me thinking

"Will we ever say the words we're feeling
Reach down underneath and tear down all the walls
Will we ever have our happy ending?
Or will we forever only be pretending?"

How often do we suppress the things we really want to say to the other person just because we are trying to protect their feelings? or trying to save what's left of that relationship? or because we fear for what the truth might actually do. Set us free or set us right. So many times the true words I want to say float in my head but something else rolls off my tongue and I end up regretting. If that doesn't happen, the voices in my head taunt me with the truth.

You should have really told him the truth...
You know that's not what you wanted to say...
Tsk Tsk Liar! Liar! Pants on fire...

It's not just me right? I'm not the only one who pretends to be okay with something when I'm really not, right? Maybe somethings are actually better left unsaid.....

R.I.P Cory Monteith