Thursday, 28 November 2013

Mirrored Emotions

Everyone's been asking If I'm okay lately
It's like a tragedy has befallen me
And I'm yet to know
Do my eyes give me away?
Is my face mirroring off an emotion I'm yet to feel

My subconscious tells me not to worry
They are just being caring
But the voices in my head laughs at my naivety
They laugh because they know something
That I don't
Which makes me wonder
I always reply that I'm fine
But am I?

Happy Thanksgiving Day

Happy Turkey Day everyone!! Whether you're on the other side of the Atlantic, in Africa or Asia, doesn't matter. I hope everyone has something to be thankful for.

I have a gazillion things that I'm thankful for. I'm thankful for my health, for education, for my family, my friends. I'm thankful for all the vacations I took this year. I'm thankful for graduating this year. I'm thankful for the new additions to my family. I'm thankful for every passing day. I'm thankful that I'm loved and I love back. The list could go on and on. Unfortunately thanksgiving isn't a big tradition over here in England, such a shame, so I don't have any plans. I'm not even eating turkey for dinner, of all days I decided to grill trout. LOL fail.

I have however compiled a list of the five best F.R.I.E.N.D.S Thanksgiving episode that everyone should watch today, at least laughter can substitute for no turkey. I bet you no matter how awful your day is going, you're going to be thankful you watched at least one of these episodes.

5. The One With The Late Thanksgiving
P.s Don't enter your kid in a baby beauty pageant, ok?

4. The One With Rachel's Other Sister
Oooh girl grab me some popcorn while I watch these girls fight LOL

3. The One With The Football
It isn't a complete thanksgiving without some sibling rivalry.

2. The One Where Underdog Gets Away
The first ever Friend's thanksgiving together

1. The One With The Rumour
I love how Phoebe tries to get Will to take off his shirt haha

And of course it isn't a complete
The One With All The Thanksgivings: I love the chicken dance and the fact that it was the first time Chandler told Monica he loves her. So Cuteeeeee

Have fun watching this. I'm not the only one who has made a list, check Sidereel and Buzzfeed. Happy Turkey Day once again.


Tuesday, 26 November 2013

Games People Play

I'm in my 20's now (early 20's shall I point out), I only said that cause I wanted you to know I'm not a child anymore. Most of my friends are in the same group as well. SO it's established we're all grown ass people right? What I don't understand is why people are still playing games at this stage in life when it comes to relationships.

Like not calling immediately or ignoring someone so you don't seem needy, or playing the hard to get card or not interested card so chase me. Ugh you get my point. If you have something on your mind or a feeling, let it be known, I'm not psychic you hear? It was cool in high school, it satisfied our juvenile understanding of love and relationships, but surely we are growing up now, it's time to leave the games to FIFA and temple run, No?

Why is it so hard to just keep everything simple? Life, Love, everything. Do we need to complicate every single thing we set our minds on, I mean the world is already difficult on its own, if there are things we can simplify, why can't we do just that? I can't deal. Just this week I've had about 4 friends complain about their significant other playing games they just don't understand. I thought we stopped playing games a long time ago?

Here's a quote I reposted on instagram a couple of days back

"I'm in my 20s, perhaps too young for marriage but definitely too old for games. Too old to just be talking to people for the sake of it. Too old to be jumping from person-to-person At this age STABILITY, CONSISTENCY and LOYALTY is the Goal"

Do you see that playing games did not make the cut? Yeah let that sink in for a while...


Throwback Post: Healed With Time

I wrote this post about 2 years back, after going through an awful break up. Apparently this is what got my blog noticed. Felt like sharing it again x

I still remember that day like it was yesterday
When you walked out on me and out of my life,
I cried, I pleaded, I screamed, I shouted,
Yet you still turned on a deaf ear and walked away
I knelt down and I begged you, I held unto your clothes,
The tears streaming down my face, mascara smudged, eyes pleading, heart breaking,
On bended knees I asked you not to leave me,
You didn’t say a word, you just walked out and left the door open behind you,
I stayed crouched on the floor and watched you leave me; slowly disappearing into the distance,
For days I left that door open, hoping, praying that you would return just like you left me but you never did,
All that came through that door was the soft gush of the wind, the cold night and the moon that shone so bright,
Looking at that moon shining brightly up in the sky later replaced by the sun day after day transformed me
It gave me energy, it gave me hope, it healed me because I let myself hurt for a while and in my hurt I found comfort and in my comfort I found strength
The strength to pick myself up from the floor and start over again,
Today I saw you; you were with another girl, I had always thought what I would do when I saw you, screamed at you, break down and cry or want to hit you but I felt different…..
I didn’t even hurt, I didn’t even care, no part of me yearned to have you back, I realized with the days gone by that I deserved the best and the best was what I was going for,
The best which you weren’t…
I gave you my sincerest smile and walked away, I didn’t say hi, because I was taught as a kid ‘’forward always, backwards never’’
There's no point revisiting the past, when the future had so much for me
I'm a changed woman not even you can break me,
I've grown to love myself and I don’t need yours, I laugh more, smile more, dance more because life is too beautiful to be sad
Thank you for hurting me, you indeed created the beautiful woman who stands tall now

Monday, 25 November 2013

Friend or Foe?

My baby sissy, Zara wrote a lovely poem. She's a good writer but she never likes to show her work SMH. But here's one she's written that I want to share. I hope you all like it as much as I do.

I've had them come and go,
This wasn't the case. 
Intensity, nurtured over time. 
Transparency, I gave my all. 
Selfless, taking you as I did myself,
Our minds intertwined. 
Time, it came and went 
Ignorant to the changes before me,
I still loved anyway. 
The silence getting cold,
Holes digging deep,
I turned a blind eye to the obvious before me. 
It happened, it's happening. 
Will it be the same again?
Loyalty, void of reciprocation,
Love, in all purity,
Taken for granted. 
Friend? Or foe? 

by Zara Dogo
Twitter: ZaraD_
Instagram: zarraaa_

Thursday, 21 November 2013

Flaws and All: One Week Progress

Hellooooo... SO I told you guys last week that I was going to be doing the water challenge, that is drinking 3 Litres of water. But I was going to start with 2 Litres first. Well the first week has passed. I must say it's not as hard as one would expect. I found myself drinking 10 glasses of water instead of 8, so I'm guessing moving to 13 cups by the 3rd and 4th week won't be so much of a challenge for me.

The only down side is I spend so much time dashing to the bathroom to wee. It's already cold plus the water challenge, not a good time to be doing this. But that is about the only difficulty I've had. Here's a picture of my progress. I know you're not meant to smile in the picture but who cares as long as you can see.

I noticed that I had more breakouts on my face but apparently that's the toxins being flushed from my system. I used a DSLR camera, made everything all so evident *side eye*. Erm I haven't worn any make up all week and I didn't have a facial this week (Bad Bondi). I don't use any facial wash either. I'm really terrible at those things, I probably don't know what a blackhead is LOL.

Okay this is taking out of my study time, so I hope this helps someone. Since I'm not using the water challenge for weight loss I haven't bothered checking my weight or anything. My waist atm is 27 inches. Let's see where it is at the 28th day, yes? Wish me luck


Monday, 18 November 2013

Hashtag Mania

I recently came across this funny skit between Justin Timberlake and Jimmy Fallon showing us our overuse of the hashtag on social networks. Imagine if we actually talked like we did on instagram and twitter. That would be so hilarious. It's really funny but it got me thinking are we abusing the hashtag?

I personally don't mind lots of hashtags if they are funny or help people find something when they search instagram or twitter. I CANNOT stand hashtags of luxury goods by those who purposely put it there to show off. Other than that, hashtags are really funny. Oh my gosh you should all follow Vinny Graham on instagram his hashtags are crazy!!!! If you don't laugh at any of his posts then you should get checked out. Ohkayyyy... back to studying. Enjoy the video

#SchoolSucks #INeedABreak #JustinIsSoHOT #WhyIsHeMarried #LuckyJessica #OkBye #GottaGetBackToStudying #TheseEssaysArentGoingToWriteThemselves #OkNoMoreHashtags #OopsIDidItAgain #LOL #BritneySpears #OkayImGoingForReal #Bye #DontMissMe #Peace

Sunday, 17 November 2013

Do You Still Dream?

At four I dreamed of becoming a singer
all the hours I spent singing into my mum's hairbrush
off key and off beat but I didn't care, it was my dream

At seven I dreamed of being an actress
All the tantrums that I threw earning myself the title 'drama queen'
practising sceneries in my head at the most random times

At nine I wanted to be a teacher
probably because I wanted a chance to punish the kids of those classmates who had offended me
or just because I liked the feeling of being in charge

At eleven I dreamed of becoming a model
I spent hours flipping through glossy magazines
practising poised moments in every mirror I came across
the glamour, the clothes, the luxury, I wanted it all

At thirteen I dreamed of being an entertainer
No episode of Oprah Winfrey's show escaped by me
Nor did any of Tyra Bank's

At fifteen I dreamed of being a neurosurgeon
Inspired by Ben Carson, I wanted to save lives
till chemistry kicked my ass and sent me packing to a different dream

At sixteen I dreamed of being a wedding planner
to make every girls dream of having a fairytale ending come to pass
and mostly because I enjoyed planning events

Then I grew up
and I stopped dreaming

Don't Live Safe

When was the last time you took a risk? Made a decision without over thinking it? Loved someone with all you had? Bungee jumped or swam with sharks? Ok don't do the last one but when was the last time you took a risk and did something exciting and entirely selfish and just for you? Sometimes we get accustomed to our daily routine that life becomes nothing but that, just a routine. You wake up, keep up appearance, drag yourself through the day and that's just it.

I recently found myself falling into a routine, if I hadn't already buried myself in one. But my life felt boring and unexciting. Just now, while trying to sleep I thought to myself, 'hey why not buy that camera you've always wanted and pursue your photography hobby?' See the thing is I love photography. I spend hours and hours pawning through my instagram timeline, tumblr or WeHeartIt, basically any site or app that lets me see pictures. Pictures are worth a thousand words, and for someone like me who has selective amnesia, I'd love to capture every moment in a picture.

So guess what I did, I went online and bought me a camera. Whether or not I'm going to regret this later I don't know. But what I know is this, photojournalism is a hobby I would love to explore. I see beautiful pictures online and think to myself, well I could have shot that. Well guess what, I'm going to start taking the beautiful pictures that I often find myself admiring.

Life should be filled with more spontaneity, don't live a dull life following the same routine over and over again. So maybe my purchasing a new camera isn't the most exciting thing to happen but it's the first step to taking thousand beautiful pictures which means breaking free from my boring cycle once in a while. Why not find a way to do something exciting once a week or month. Dye your hair that colour, pierce your nose, take that vacation, skip work/school and go to disneyland. All I'm saying is life is tooo short to not enjoy every beautiful day that you're blessed to see.

Look forward to taking pictures and sharing with you all....

Tuesday, 12 November 2013

The 28 day Water Challenge

So... I read on a blog about a woman who took 10 years off her face by drinking 3 litres of water for 28 straight days. I mean it's such an effortless beauty transformation right? she released pictures of her before and after. Who wouldn't want to do this? It's cheap, It's natural. Anyone can do this as long as they put their mind to it. So I'm going to give this a shot. I hope I stick to this because I am not the biggest fan of water considering that I'm a sprite recovering addict. LOL

Here's the tricky bit, 3 litres of water equals 13 glasses of water (OMG) that's alot of toilet trips for me. Goodness. But erm I want flawless skin too so I'm gonna try. I'll probably start with 2litres for the first 14 days and graduate to 3 litres. I'll also advice you to start small like 1.5 litres then 2 litres before you hit the 3 litres mark just so you don't overconsume water. These days everything has its own side effect.

But you can read about this woman's testimony here. And good luck to everyone. I look forward to hearing good reviews and reports at the end. And of course water does so much more than just detox our skin, it has soo many other health benefits. SO really this is for our own good...

Maybe I'll share pictures of my own transformation too hehehe. Good luck


Sunday, 3 November 2013

Marriage Isn't For Me

I probably just read the best article on marriage yet. It couldn't have been written or said better. I hope you enjoy it:

Reblogged from Seth Adam Smith on his blog

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.
Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.
I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.
Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?
Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.
Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.
My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.
My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.
No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”
Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.
But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.
Marriage is about family.
I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.
To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.
And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Friday, 1 November 2013

Hello Sweet November

Happy New Month darlings. It's yet another month, almost the end of the year and it's the month of gratitude. Soo many things to be thankful for, its time to start reflecting on the year and counting our blessings. I wish you all a beautiful month ahead filled with laughter, love, prosperity and purpose. And I hope this month won't just about receiving but also being a blessing in someone's life. A rainbow in someone's cloud. Enjoy your month xoxo