Friday, 6 December 2013

The Beautiful, the Past and the Future

This is a beautiful piece of work written by my friend, Jerry about confessions or his account on different women in his life. Said women are anonymous so it could be about you or not :P. It's an interesting read, maybe your story may be in it ;). I feel soo honoured that he's letting me 'publish' his work on my blog. Enjoy reading it as much as I did xxx


As a child i probably knew nothing about emotions, love and commitment but con- cerning you i know i felt something. I remember the day your head got stuck in a burglar proof in our house, i laughed as a child but i still felt your pain when you cried and called out for your mother.
We grew older, you became more beautiful and now i got more sure about what i was feeling for you. Your dad moved from the City we grew in and so did you and the rest of your family- i felt broken but i knew it was a phase we all had to go through in life (change is inevitable). I remember i asked you out on time via email (i was always at the internet cafe then) and you said NOooo (in this same wise and font) but i never gave up. I called you one time (via Econet with my Mums Nokia 3310) and you told me in this same words “Please Leave me alone, stop being a pest to my life”. I just let you be and i remember you were the first person that called my number when i lost my mum in 2006 (i was so happy even though i was sad at the same time). Now we are even more older and all these things are just stories from the past and we have grown to become close friends. Now i however can not write about the future because it hasn’t come yet, so i’ll just say - The story continues...........

You were probably the SMALLEST person i’ve ever seen and not disregarding the fact that i was pretty small too as a child. You had a black dress on, with a white collar on it and a red ribbon which you used to tie your hair (weird - but i know you won’t remember). We played all day in the sand cause thats what kids during our days did. Your Mum came to the Town where i lived to launch her album which was in our native language (marghi) and i remember it was a huge success - the Venue was just opposite St. Patricks Catholic Church.
I saw you again at the wedding of one of your Uncles in the Village , you had no ear piercings but you were very much beautiful (i wondered how considering the fact that all the girls i know had piercings). You’ve graduated now and you came to Abuja - we’ve been keeping in touch on twitter and i finally got to meet you again after so many years. You had someone you were dating you told me (i didn’t even know what to think of that). The second time you came to Abuja we went to the Cinema and we saw “Dark Knight” together and after that i got to meet the guy you were dating, you were so happy when you saw him and i was happy for you too. I remember you cried in front of me once and i didn’t like that fact one bit cause i knew it was cause of a guy or so, but i do believe you are old enough to make your choices. I remember you sent me a Voice note of a rehears- als you were doing one time with your younger brother and till now i still have it and listen to it once in a while just to listen to your beautiful voice. We still chat and talk sometimes and so i’ll say - The Story goes on .........

I really don’t have much to say about you. You were the first girl i ever dated and i can’t say it ended so well- hence i’ll avoid trying to bring back any memories. I believe and hope you are doing alright now (i heard you’re dating someone now), we haven’t spoken in months and i’m doing very do have a unique walk i always teased you about though- THE END

I saw you in school one day, you were walking out of a class. I had that WOW look on my face (ok - i’m not the one to just stop a female and start a conversation so i just let you pass and walk by) , i never saw you again until are 3years. We met again on twitter (after i googled your name which i found out at some point while still searching to see you). You didn’t know me but i probably knew almost every- thing about you (heard some good, some not - which didn’t stop me). We started chatting on Twitter Via Direct Messages and i asked for your number which you gave me at some point.
I was out of the Country for Christmas with my family and you said you’d be traveling to the village for Christmas and your number hasn’t been going through

since i got it. I remember calling you on New years day 2013, we later met in class where you were studying in school after the Christmas break and i gave you a mes- sage in a brown envelop (which contained some earrings i got for you when i trav- elled for Christmas). We started hanging out and i went to your place where you lived with your younger sister and your cousins, i remember you cooked like all the time and i can’t remember a single day i left your place hungry. I got you a shoe you said you liked one time and also a gown or so. You had challenges with your previous relationship and i was always there to help you go through each day. I later asked you out at some point but you said no “it just wasn’t possible” and i still wouldn’t give up. I asked 2 or 3 more times but you still said No. You found some- one else and i just had to let you be. We don’t talk anymore - I’m doing fine and i hope you are too.

You are i’ll say one of the most intelligent females i have met in this life till date. You helped me a lot with my first relationship despite the time, hour or means which i contacted you with and you’d reply always with answers that got straight to the heart. First time i saw you it was a December Christmas break in Maiduguri and you haven’t even ever met me but the first thing you said was “So you’ll take us out and buy us shawarma ko?” - i was just speechless. Then again i saw you another Christmas season in Uba and the third time was in the U.K (London to be precise). I followed my dad for a short trip and i asked if you and your cousin were in London but your cousin couldn’t make it cause she was writ- ing exams at that time. We went to see one of your Uncles at his office or so and we later went to a restaurant (Chinese or Indonesian i think, i knew it was an Asian restaurant though). I went through the menu and i said i wasn’t going to eat a single thing here but you said “You just have to try something new” and i did. The food was spicy and some part had honey in it (weird). After that we went to a Bank where you deposited some money using the ATM, i remember you were a little bit confused and one of the Bank workers came out to help you with the de- posit, as you did that i went to HMV to get some DVDs and New albums i was looking for too.
We later went to the Cinema where we watched FAST FIVE (RIP Paul Walker) and you said it actually wasn’t your first time of seeing the movie but i noticed you were pretty much excited anytime Vin Diesel appeared on the screen (i remember you tweeting “Vin Diesel can get it” that evening). It was a day well spent - we still chat and talk once in a while, i have your Blog site saved as Bookmark and Favor- ite too (i’m a huge fan) and with this i’ll say ......the Story Continues 

By Jerry Obed
Twitter: @jerryowad

Wednesday, 4 December 2013

Marry Me

marry me.
let’s spend our week nights eating cereal on the floor
when there is a perfectly fine table behind us.
we can go to the movies and sit in the back row
just to make out like kids falling in love for the first time.
marry me.
we’ll paint the rooms of our house
and get more paint on us than the walls.
we can hold hands and go to parties we end up
ditching to drink wine out of the bottle in the bathtub.
marry me.
and slow dance with me in our bedroom
with an unmade bed and candles on the nightstand.
let me love you forever.
marry me.

This post is dedicated to my lovely friend, Sady who is getting hitched in a couple of days. I pray marriage is everything that you hope for and more. Can't wait to turn up for your wedding!

DISCLAIMER: Photo from Bella Naija, Poem from Tumblr

Monday, 2 December 2013

Ad Audebit Diversae

For years now women have been revolting on the stereotypes laid out by society on how we should dress. We cut our skirts shorter, we showed more flesh, we brought back history, we defied history, we've done it all while we're still waiting for the men to catch up.

So of course we always welcome fashion brands that feed this impulse desire to keep changing and defying society's expectations; if they still expect that is. It's with great pleasure that I introduce Diversus which literally means Different in Latin. The key concept is dare to be different, Ad Audebit Diversae. 

If you know Amirah Waziri personally, you would be impressed that despite all she's accomplished and still is, she's added fashion to her life skills. The A/W '13 collection made its debut recently with strong silhouettes, dark and neutral colours, and a mixture of elegance and androgynous in one. I had the opportunity to skype with Amirah, because of course everything is digital now and it was convenient for both of us considering our location differences and she had a lot to say about the brand. 

So our Skype interview started and Amirah is all smiles, she's wearing a Boy London sweatshirt and her hair is up in a bun. She's just come back from her class Talking about her new baby, Diversus had her grinning from ear to ear and she had a lot to say

Despite the overpopulation in the fashion industry, Amirah believes that anyone can call themselves an artist but those with the dope shit would stand out.

On how Diversus was born: Amirah always had a niche for fashion design but never told anyone for fear of how they would react. But after completing her Maths and Physics foundation course, she found herself depressed and all she wanted to do was draw. And she found solace in that and finally summoned the bravery to make her designing dreams a reality. Moreover, she doesn't believe that there are enough unorthodox designers in Abuja, Nigeria that's why she went in that direction.

What to expect from the brand: Soo many unorthodox things. For someone who loves living on the cutting edge of things, she wants to express her awesomeness through her art. "Diversus is all about being subtle and bold at the same time"

Top celebrities and models she would love to see in her clothes are Kate Moss, Miley Cyrus, Naya Rivera, J Cole and Nas, who she is helplessly in love with. By now she bursts out laughing at her confession, which is adorably cute. But if she had to pick a face for her brand it would be Kate Moss.

Her target audience is not Nigerians. At least not limited to them, She wants to be internationally known and someday own a store on Sloane Street.

She draws her inspiration from her emotions, her surroundings, sometimes just from the basic things and other times from amazing designers like Rick Owen, Calvin Klein, MaxMara. These designers inspire her because they do so much from so little. 

Amirah is having an upcoming event to debut her collection on Saturday, December 7th 2013 at Doll House, London. There's going to be some special appearances there and everyone is welcome, so please attend if you're free. School closes this weekend, you don't have any excuse.

She also has a fashion film campaign that she's premiering at the Event which she couldn't have done without Machar Laushi and Fauzy Wadada, who she says "working with (them) has been soo bliss and they are so open minded, sincere and creative. Shout out to you two". And of course special thanks to her sister, Habibah Waziri who has been like her second mum and backbone and supported her through everything and of course her mummy, who has also been soo supportive and whose money she couldn't have done this without (again she bursts out laughing). 

One more important fact, Amirah is just 18 and she confessed that this is the scariest thing she's ever done. But you know what they say

"If your dreams don't scare you, they aren't big enough"

 Check out the full collection at and make sure you come for the Launch party. Tell a friend to tell a friend...

Spreading the Christmas Cheer

Happy December everyone. It's almost the end of the year, we are blessed to still be here. So many lives lost this year and yet here we are. I'm really grateful. To the souls we lost, may they rest in peace. To the new additions, welcome to the world.

Oh wells, December is probably my favourite month, soo many weddings and the festivity. I love it all! And so in the spirit of christmas I've decided to dedicate this whole month to Random Acts of Kindness (RAK). Christmas shouldn't only be about the gifts under the tree or our 'christmas clothes' or the snow. It should be about the message as well, the message of love. There are a whole lot of people out there who don't feel loved, imagine if we all decided to commit a random act of kindness to a total stranger or even someone we know. And not just this month but every day. The world would be a much better place to live in. But one step at a time. So this month, for everyday till we enter the new year I'm going to try my best to commit a random act. I hope you all can join in to.

I started today. I had a late breakfast, and when I walked into the kitchen I stumbled across the lady who cleans the flat. Halfway through she took her lunch break, all that was left was for her to vacuum the dining area. So I did it for her, Ayman who was in the kitchen with me went "are you serious?", she hasn't seen it yet and I don't expect a thank you. But three times every week she cleans the flat without complain, always smiling and cheerful at her job. It's the least I could have done for her. You don't have to go and start completing the tasks of everyone but you can do something they least expect and if everyday is too much of challenge for you then you can try 

12 RAK for each day of Christmas
4 RAK for each week in December
A set number of RAK; 10, 20....

Good luck everyone. Let's spread love and the christmas message; Christian or not. Being kind is not limited to any religion.

"If we teach love, only love, every heart would open up
If we give love and only love, life would be much easier
If we teach love and only love, we would see the work of Jah...
Cause love is the key"


P.s If you take a picture please tag me on instagram @bondi_lala or if you want to share on twitter @Ayeesha_lala

Sunday, 1 December 2013

Unbroken Silence

I’m sitting here waiting for you
Waiting to hear from you
Waiting to see you
I hate it
I hate waiting
I hate this feeling
I hate how you make me feel

That’s how I feel
Waiting to hear from you
Staring at my phone constantly
Hoping every message that comes in is from you
Rolling my eyes when I find out it isn’t
Disgusted with myself

I’m searching for your face in everyone’s face
I’m searching for a sign
That I’m not losing my mind
Constantly worrying over you
Here I sit in my room, a tub of ice cream
And Jhene Aiko in the background
Trying to drown out the feelings
Not even the ice cream could fill the emptiness inside of me

Where are you?
Why can’t I find you?
Why won’t you look for me?

Don’t you care anymore?

He'll Know

One day, he’s going to know. He’ll know your birthday, your middle name, where you were born, your star sign, and your parents names. He’ll know how old you were when you learnt to ride a bike, how your grandparents passed away, how many pets you had, and how much you hated going to school. He’ll know your eye colour, your scars, your freckles, your laugh lines and your birth marks. He’ll know your favourite book, movie, candy, food, pair of shoes, colour, and song. He’s going to know why you’re awake at 5am most nights, where you were when you realised you’d lost a good friend, why you picked up the razor and how you managed to put it down before things went too far. He’s going to know your phobias, your dreams, your fears, your wishes, and your worries. He’s going to know about your first heartbreak, your dream wedding, and your problems with your parents. He’ll know your strengths, weaknesses, laziness, energy, and your mixed emotions. He’s going to know about your love for mayonnaise, your dream of being famous when you were five, your need to quote any film you know all the way through, and your fear of growing older. He’ll know your bad habits, your mannerisms, your stroppy pout, your facial expressions, and your laugh like it’s his favourite song. The way you chew, drink, walk, sleep, fidget and kiss. He’s going to know that you’ve already picked out wedding flowers, baby names, tiles for the bathroom, bridesmaid dresses, and the colour of your bedroom walls. He’s going to know, get annoyed at and then accept that you leave clothes everywhere, take twenty minutes to order a Starbucks, have to organise your DVD’s alphabetically, and check your horoscope… just incase. He’ll know your McDonald’s order, how many sugars to put in your tea, how many scoops of ice cream you want, and that you need your sandwiches cut into triangles. He’s going to know how you feel without you telling him, that you need a wee from a look on your face, and that you’re crying without shedding tears. He’s going to know all of it. Everything. You, from top to bottom and inside out. From learning, from sharing, from listening, from watching. He’s going to know every single thing there is to know, and you know what else? He is still going to love you.