Tuesday, 17 June 2014

Real Friends or Social Friends?

There are so many things and so many ways social media has contributed to our world, it's broken down barriers, it's made long distance relationships possible and helped us socialise more. And it has destroyed almost everything and life as we know it.

No one talks anymore because they are too busy on the phone. You see someone in trouble, first instinct is to take a picture, tweet it or instagram it. We don't even pray over food first, we take a picture. No one checks up on anyone all we do is retweet, snapchat, like, repost and comment. That is what relationships have been reduced to. I know this, because I'm guilty.

Over 7 billion people in the world and sometimes you wonder just why you're feeling lonely. How about looking down at that device you're holding and realising why. As modern as I like to think I am, there are soo many things I am traditional about. One of them is friendship. I can have a thousand friends on instagram and facebook, and a thousand followers on twitter but what use are those figures to me if no one is there for me in my hour of need? There's only so much a phone relationship can do, it can't wipe my tears, it can't hug me, it can't go to the movies with me, I can't have a heart to heart to with it. There are times when the last thing I want to do is tap buttons on my phone, those times I just want to be with a friend in reality.

Then you start thinking, who could I even go to right now with the way I'm feeling and then you realise you probably have no one. What happened to the thousand friends? Here's what happened. You forgot to be real friends, you got soo comfortable being social media friends that you forgot what makes up real friendship. The more you clicked links and tapped away at your phone, the more your friendships deteriorated.

Sometimes I ask myself is it even worth it being on all these social networks, if it means losing touch with reality and quality relationships that are not made up of constant instagram feeds and my twitter timeline. I know life gets in the way as you grow up and being social friends seems easier but certain things just shouldn't be compromised on. Of all the things we've lost in the name of modernization, good friendship just shouldn't be one of them. 


  1. I have been thinking about this a lot these days. And I made the conscious decision to contact friends I haven't spoken to in a long while. Not only did they appreciate it but it was special for me too. Thank you for this Bondi :) Good friendship is everything!!!

    1. Awwww I'm glad this had a positive impact on you. I am trying to do that too and start an unplugged sessions where I zone out of the virtual world and get back in touch with reality.

  2. This is very right o

  3. Very true!!!! It's sad actually.