Tuesday, 23 September 2014

Bye Bye London*

As my chapter in London comes to an end, I find myself singing "why do all good things come to an end?' in a bout of mixed feelings. I'm done with university, both undergrad and postgrad and I'm going to be moving home to get a head start on my career starting with the one year NYSC programme (which I'm dreading a little, but let's not focus on the negative).

I've had a beautiful time in London, I've grown so much, learnt a lot about myself and the world and I've met soo many beautiful people that I've come to cherish in life. However this post is an ode to the great city that is London. London has been a second home since I was 8, but the London you see while being dragged from one store to the other with your mother is different from the one you explore as an adult. So here are the top 10 things I'm going to miss about this beautiful city. 

  1. I'm going to miss people watching, whether on West End, the tube or at the park. London is home to some quirky, unique individuals. I'm going to miss seeing people with a great freedom of expression.
  2. I'm going to miss 'Barclays riding' at 2am round West End with my friends. You can't try that in Abuja :(
  3. I am really going to miss my church, Hillsong. I grew so much closer to God worshipping in this church, they became family and it really felt like home.
  4. I'm going to miss the variety of cuisines I can eat from, even though I'm a picky person. I still like the idea of having options, LOL
  5. I'm going to miss walking round West End on a sunday afternoon, it became a mini tradition for me. Most especially on New Bond Street *wails*
  6. I recently discovered Caravan Square in King's Cross and it became a safe haven for me with the coloured lighting and fountain. It's both romantic and serene. 
  7. I'm going to miss going for West End Musicals, the production, the talent, the euphoric feeling, it's all so grand. I really hope we can one day have properly produced musicals in Nigeria too.
  8. Easy access to EVERYTHING! I mean everything, wi-fi, shops, food, fashion shows, transport. The lifestyle! I'm going to miss it so damn much.
  9. COFFEE SHOPS!!! Starbucks and Costa! I'm going to miss being able to go into a coffee shop to order a drink and read a book with no one judging me or trying to hit on me. 
  10. Hopping on a train to Paris! What's that? I mean just walking to King's Cross and getting to Paris in 2 and a half hours? Dang! I'm going to miss the ease of travelling from London, I don't even want to think about the stressful process of travelling from Abuja. This is the biggest thing I'll miss about London.
So there we have it. Ten great things about London I'm really going to miss me, however, I plan on making the best on my move back home. After all it is home, how bad can it be transitioning and getting the hangs of it?

*this is a late post. I've moved back home and well it's been.... (A story for another day)

Feel Good Playlist

I don't know about you but music saves my soul, I cannot go a day without listening to music like most of you I assume. I have about a thousand playlists depending on the mood I was in while creating it, lol. I decided to share my latest; Feel Good Playlist, this is just a compilation of songs that get me happy instantly and singing and dancing at the same time. Quite a number of weird songs there as well, don't judge me.

However because I have 98 songs on the playlist at the moment, I'm only going to share 25 with you and possibly avoid the cliche ones, please feel free to suggest more. Anything to keep the happy juice flowing ;). Also feel free to steal my playlist, it's great to shower with, drive to, clean or just to get back to a 100 real quick.

Wednesday, 17 September 2014

What's Your Love Language?

You may or may not have heard of the 5 Love Languages or it may come to your surprise that one exists, let alone four others. But it does exist: Receiving Gifts, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.

Although I'm yet to read the book (I've seen my sister with a copy) I took the test online to find out what my love language is and it came as no surprise to me that it is indeed, Quality Time. And here's what it says about this language

"In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you.' like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there- with the Tv off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby - makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities."

Monday, 15 September 2014

Breast Cancer GiveAway

Hello lovelies,
As I announced on Instagram, I would be teaming up with my beautiful friend, Rukaiyah, CEO of Flaunt and Flair to give away a pink silk scarf from her Retro Collection to two lucky winners. In honour of the Breast Cancer Awareness (BCA) campaign, Scarlett's Diary is proud and excited to announce its first official blog giveaway and the beginning of many more to come.

Just last month I lost one of my favourite aunts to Breast Cancer , she was a pleasant lady with a bubbly personality who always made me laugh. I never saw her with a frown on her face. And because she was an immigration officer, we never had trouble in the airport but sadly she lost her battle to breast cancer, may her soul rest in peace. So maybe like me, you've lost a loved one to breast cancer or know someone currently battling it out with the ailment, join me and a million other people trying to raise awareness for breast cancer.

To stand a chance of winning the luxe scarf you need to enter into a writing competition, either a short story or poem about a survivor's story, the loss of someone to breast cancer or how you feel about it. So let your imaginations run wild as you think of what to write on this topic. Also, the write ups of the winners would be published on the blog with their permission.

So the terms and conditions are as follows:

  1. Two winners would each get a scarf from Flaunt & Flair.
  2. Anyone is allowed to enter, irrespective of age, sex, race or sexual orientation. Cancer knows no discrimination, so do I. 
  3. Entry into the competition ends 4th October and the winners would be announced on the 14th of October.
  4. A team of impartial judges would be set up to decide the winners based on fair judgement. Please do not attack us or hate us if you're not selected as a winner. There will be more give aways in the future. 
  5. Unfortunately, this giveaway is geographically limited as I can't do international delivery. I would appreciate if all entering this competition reside in Nigeria or have a way to claim their prize in Abuja.
  6. You may enter only once into the competition, so do make sure you're certain about your entry please.
  7. The maximum word count for all entries should be 500 words but there is no minimum word count and all entries should be emailed to bondibilala@yahoo.com with 'Breast Cancer Awareness Competition' as the Subject please.
  8. Winners would be announced on Instagram and notified by email as well.

Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Why Don't Churches Talk About Sex

Why is sex such a hard topic to talk about religion wise? There are countless topics on money, doing good, love and trusting God. But hardly ever do preachers talk about sex, which to me is the biggest challenge Christian youths face. And not just Christians. 

I'm a youth. I'm a Christian. And I'm celibate. Is it easy? No. It's about the hardest thing ever. I've slipped. I've made mistakes. But no one talks about sex. It's like this forbidden topic everyone tiptoes about. Why? Why aren't churches doing more to engage youth in sex talks. Everyone expects you to abstain from sex and be pure till marriage but it's a topic everyone skirts around. As a result, a lot of youth walk around without a space to share how they feel. I appreciate the sermonns held in church but I feel it speaks more to the older generation than it does to youth. Yes, I've learnt a lot about titheing, trusting God in difficult situations, faith, love etc but I would also love to be reminded about sexual immorality and how to stay pure. I would love to be encouraged in church about abstinence and dating.

Thursday, 4 September 2014

Not a Romeo and Juliet Story

We held hands as we drifted between people and blocks in the west end. We talked fondly of the future, the future we knew we didn't have. 

I don't know if it was talking about the future or the fact that I slightly believed the possibility but it made me sad to think that it wouldn't be. We talked of a home on park lane overlooking the square garden. We picked out a car from the Bentley store and argued over having a pet or children. I wanted a cat, he wanted a snake. We settled on having kids to keep me busy. It was all dreamy and beautiful but fiction. 

Tuesday, 2 September 2014

Facts About Me

I was tagged on instagram to do the '20 Facts about me' challenge which I dreaded at first but as soon as I got into it, I felt like going overboard. That's what this post is for, to bore you with facts about me but don't worry I won't write more than 30 LOL.

1. Bondi is actually my real name and it means 'Admire her'
2. I have the memory span of a gold fish and a highly selective memory. Worst part is, I don't get to choose what I want to remember. 
3. I'm a writer at heart. I've kept a journal for as long as I can remember. 
4. I can't drive with shoes on 😳 
5. My toe nails are almost always painted different shades of red. Picked that from my mum.

Guess who's back

I know I've been AWOL but I'm glad to say I'm finally done with my Masters degree and school for now. It's been an incredibly difficult and exciting journey and I'm just happy to be done. And now that I'm done with school, I feel I can get back to discovering myself. I feel like I don't have any hobbies or interests anymore. My blogging suffered this year but hopefully that's about to change. As for the next step in my life, well I'm moving back home and I'm pretty scared and excited about it but that's a blog post for another day.

I have no idea what to do next but I'm thinking of taking on a project. Ideas are always welcomed, seriously, let's brainstorm for ideas on what to do in my post-school phase. I turned 22 2 days ago, not that I feel older or look it. Actually just the other day some man told me I looked nothing more than 20 and he wasn't hitting on me. He was raising money for charity, wait....

My birthday was awesome, friends made it special and even though this was the first birthday I didn't plan an event for, it turned out to be a good one. Spontaneity isn't always bad. I think I should continue yoga, dropped that for a minute.

Oh and I have to move... so I'm quite busy with packing, a chore I'm not particularly fond of. Well I just thought to update my blog and readers, if I still have any LOL.

Here's to blogging more, hopefully. I missed this